The Power of One-on-One Time: Supporting Your Child Through Divorce

Written by Bianca Lopez, LMSW
Kids In The Middle Therapist

A parent’s attention is pulled in multiple directions during a divorce. As a parent you are delegating your time to the court process, possibly changing homes, navigating the co-parenting relationship, working, cooking, cleaning, setting up appointments, attending school events, and trying to find one-on-one time for your child (ren). The list could go on regarding the challenges a parent faces, however, this blog post will discuss the benefits of spending one-on-one time with your child (ren) during the divorce process.

Reinforced Connection During a Difficult Time for the Child

Dedicated time for the child without other family members interrupting or distracting you, lets the child feel reassured and validated. This is important for children when they feel uncertain about their future.

Improved Coping Skills

Spending one-on-one time helps the child develop positive coping skills to manage stress or anxiety from the divorce. When a child feels as if they are being heard and understood regarding their feelings and thoughts this can create a positive increase in their self-esteem.

Emotional Support and Strengthened Bond

When a parent prioritizes spending one-on-one with their child, this creates a space for the child to feel comfortable to discuss their thoughts, concerns, and feelings associated with the divorce. A child tends to strive for consistency and stability, one-on-one time can strengthen the bond between the child and parent during a challenging time.

Sense of Security

When divorce or separation occurs within a family dynamic, this can be a scary feeling for a child. Dedicated time with a parent shows that the child is still valued, heard, and loved even when there are changes within the family system.

Lower Levels of Anxiety

Focusing fully on your child during this time, and the child knows they have your full attention creates a space to ease feelings of uncertainty, confusion, and worry. One-on-one time allows you to carefully observe your child’s behavior and emotional state, allowing you to better address their specific needs.

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