New Year’s Resolutions for the Divorced Parent
As we welcome the new year, we often set New Year’s resolutions to improve ourselves. If you are a parent that has recently been through a separation or divorce, you may want to try something other than losing weight or giving up caffeine. This may be your year to set a resolution focused on improving your child’s life.
Here is a brief list of some ideas to make your co-parenting relationship better in 2021:
- Keep every door open – make yourself accessible to your children
- Swallow my ego – put your feelings aside to better your children
- Maintain discipline – children need to retain consistency, even under two roofs.
- Invest time – children like to know that they are a priority in your life.
- Show them hope – Show that even after a divorce or separation you can still have a healthy relationship with the other parent that is built on respect.
- Avoid playing the blame game – Don’t blame the other parent for all issues, take responsibility for your actions and their impact.
- Respect your spouse – Children need to see that even in difficult situations you can remain as an adult as much as possible.
- Respect your child – Don’t use your child as the messenger or spy, let your kids be kids.
- Tell your child you love them – It is important for children to get reinforced regularly, especially during tough emotional times.
- Keep your promises – Children need a trusting relationship, if you make your child a promise, make sure you follow through on it.
- Focus on the future – Don’t get caught up on what has happened, focus on what will happen and this will help you act responsibly.
- Letting go of your anger toward your co-parent – Move forward boldly into this new year rather than still cling to the hurts of the past.