5 In Depth Tips for Divorcing Parents
After spouses go through the divorce process, many are presented with a new role to learn and manage – being a co-parent. This can be a challenging situation for some who have difficulty communicating with their co-parent. However, divorcing parents can raise their children successfully and give them the best life possible. Here are five tips to help you navigate your new role as a co-parent.
- Create Consistent Environments: Providing the same ground rules at each parent’s home can help a child feel safe and stable in their environments. This might include curfews, bedtimes, homework schedules, etc. A child is more likely to thrive when they know what to expect and what is expected of them.
- Ensure Communication is Open and Frequent: It can be hard not to let negative feelings get in the way of communication. However, ensuring the children have their needs met by communicating with the other parent is most important.
- Do Not Talk Badly About the Other Parent: It is important to remember that your ex is your child’s parent. There could be a lot of tension between you, but you must not relay that amongst your children. A child deserves and needs a healthy relationship with each parent. Keeping the negative talk away from your child can provide a better opportunity for them to have these healthy relationships.
- Encourage Your Child to Have Relationships with Family: A child should be allowed to visit their family, such as grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc., even if those family members are on the other parent’s side. A separation or divorce should not take these special relationships away, and a parent should support their children’s right to visit their family.
- Create a Co-Parenting Team: A child deserves to have parents that work together to create a consistent, safe, and secure life and environment for them. One way to do this is to view one’s relationship with their ex as a business relationship. They should have consistent communication, make important decisions together, and be on the same page with most things related to their child.